7.30.2009

I'm not a photographer...

A couple of months ago, I was happy to find out that my cousin was getting married. What's funny is that I had never ever thought she would tie the knot, but admitted she did it for her fiance. Marriage was something very important to him and she knew she'd be with him forever... so why not make it officialy. A very nice gesture on her part I found.

They decided they wanted a really really really small wedding, 25 people tops. Heck I wasn't even invited (which was fine of course ;) ) They were planning a wedding in 6 months, and had a very little budget to make this wedding happen. Well 2 months ago, I received an email. She asked me if I would be willing to do both her makeup and be the official photog for her wedding. They weren't paying for a photographer so she thought that I would be a better candidate to take pics than say… uncle Bob.

Of course I said YES, I was actually honored that she asked me. I've had a photography background back in College but that was 6 years ago... so my photography skills were quite rusty. She lent me her Canon SX10-IS camera so that I would have time to play around with it. Let me say... it wasn't easy. I was more rusty then I thought. Luckily I did lots of research on the web.

Well the wedding was last weekend… and I was so freaken nervous. I was putting so much pressure on myself, that I vowed never to accept to be a photographer again. Don’t get me wrong I loved my experience but dang… I don’t need to have the nervous craps. I seriously bow down to all your photographers out there… (I have no clue how you do it! geez)

My cousin told me she just wanted say 40 good pics… Phew! I think were good. I took over 400… Now, Im in the process of editing them. Thats the long part... but with the Totally Rad Photoshop Actions ... its a breeze.


My advice if you ever decide on accepting an invitation to shoot a wedding.

BE PREPARED!!!!
Do lots and lots of research, and practice with the camera you will be using ahead of time. Even if you need to carry a little booklet with notes on what camera settings you used in which lighting... it will defintiely help you out. Oh and take at least 2 pictures per shot. To be sure at least one turns out.

TRY TO CONVINCE THEM TO HIRE A PRO
Explain to the couple that photography is something that takes time to learn and that its not because you have a camera you are automatically a photographer. Tell them that their wedding only happens once in their life (hopefully) and those moments are really really important. So slurging on a photographer is important. If they still ask you to take pictures after that... then go for it.

HAVE LOW EXPECTATIONS
I know this sounds bad... but make sure the person your shooting for knows your not a pro and that it IS huge possible the pictures don't turn out. Plus, if your expectations are low, you won't be disappointed if they are crappy... but on the contracty super excited if you did a good job.

HAVE FUN WITH IT - and drink a glass of wine of two
Once the day is finally here... theres not turning back (but you might wish it could; anyways I know I did) Relax, drink a glass of wine or two and simply have fun with it. It will definelty make the whole day so much more pleasant.

I’m not a photographer… but I did okay? Anyways I think so. :)
Good luck if your shooting a wedding... I wouldn't want to be in those shoes again. LOL

Flamingo on BeeTV

Hey Hive! Guess what? I'm hopping on the BeeTV wagon. Join me tomorrow night (Friday) starting at 8:30 PM EST!

I will have my sangria in hand and will talk about anything and everything...

For those interested.... thought I'd share my sangria recipe
  • 1 Bottle of red wine
  • 2 cup of orange juice
  • 1 cup of Cranberry juice
  • 1 cup of Pineapple Juice
  • 1 cup of sprite or 7up
  • 2 Shots of peach schnapps (optional)
  • 1 Orange cut into wedges
  • 1 Cup of frozen berries and/or peaches
Preparation : Mix it all up baby... add the fruit at the very end, and enjoy ;)

Hopefully you will have your glass of sangria too... see you tomorrow!!!

7.10.2009

Glamnuptials: 3,2,1 and Catch

Though I didn't do many traditional wedding things, the garter toss and bouquet toss were a must. Not because I had too... but because its something I've always looked forward to at my own wedding.

Plus, with the unique Garter I made my new husband.... I had to have him go fish ;)

So I stood on a speaker, turned around to look at the DJ and with a simple nod of the head... he knew it was time to cue the Superman Theme... Yup, that's seriously what played.

No no no.... Hands behind your back Mr.F. Now, Now, no cheating....


I had never seen someone smile as much as Mr.Flamingo did when he discovered the hidden treasure.... a superman garter, HIS superman garter. At that same moment, I saw a confused look on his face

"Am I really throwing this one?" he looked at me, and seemed almost heartbroken.

"No, No... I have a toss garter, that one you keep to add to your superman collection"
and the big smile reappeared quickly on his face.

Catch ...

Next it was the girls turn.... and my oh my were they ever anxious. When the DJ announced that he wanted all the single ladies to come to the dance floor, I felt as though I was at a concert or something... the girls were pushing and shoving :) geez... ladies, its only a bouquet. ;)


The DJ asked all the girls to turn around. (So they wouldn't see where I was throwing the bouquet) I too ... was back to them... so there was no way I was cheating on this one. I was really anxious to see who would catch the bouquets (yup I had 5 mini bouquets)

The DJ told me,"I'll count down to 1... and then you throw" sounds like some easy instructions... well believe it or not, I couldn't wait, and threw them when he said "3" Guess, I'm not good at counting down ;)


I was really happy two of my good friends caught the bouquets... They seriously paraded around with the mini-bouquet and showed it off to everyone. Its only a bogus tradition girls... Yet, I can't help but wonder if the next wedding I will be going to will be one of theirs... LOL



Will you be doing the garter and bouquet toss?
Is there something that you absolutely want at your wedding?

Up next: The Favors...


Images taken by guests
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Previously:
Glamnuptials: Beauty Time
Glamnuptials: Prep Time
Glamnuptials: Our details

Glamnuptials: Ceremony Part 1
Glamnuptials: Ceremony Part 2
Glamnuptials: Bride Posing
Glamnuptials: Groom Posing
Glamnuptials: Strike the pose Part 1
Glamnuptials: Strike the pose Part 2
Glamnuptials: The Newlyweds
Glamnuptials: We are Family
Glamnuptials: The first dance
Glamnuptials: Toast time a lot of tears
Glamnuptials: Boogie on Down
Glamnuptials: Le Gâteau
Glamnuptials: The Guestbook
Glamnuptials: Decor Elements
Glamnuptials: Giving our gifts
Glamnuptials: DAS aka Day after Shoot
Glamnuptials: Wedding Movie Trailer
Glamnuptials: Real Wedding Inspiration Board
Glamnuptials: The REAL Budget


7.09.2009

Glamnuptials: Boogie on Down!!!

Enough tears had fallen and it was time for the real party to start. Let me tell you.. we did not have any problems with that, the guests were up an dancing even before the DJ cued the official "bust-a-move" music.

The dance floor was packed and we had such a great time. The music kept us on our feet... to the point that I missed a meal or two. Its shows how important great music is to any party... and my DJ did an awesome job!!!

My sisters and I, like to sing along to EVERY song... and with no exception. We aren't good singers but singing while dancing makes it that much more entertaining... so ya, you might see some open mouths or some funny faces in the pictures to come. :)


Of course there were the "must-have" dances:

The Thriller (RIP Michael):

The Suavemente:



The Twist-and-Shout:

and of course the Macarena:


All this dancing resulted in two things...

Lots of drinking and of course....


Taking off your shoes and dancing bare feet... a classic in any party/wedding.

Up next: 3,2,1 and catch!


Images taken by Ipi-events and guests
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Previously:
Glamnuptials: Beauty Time
Glamnuptials: Prep Time
Glamnuptials: Our details

Glamnuptials: Ceremony Part 1
Glamnuptials: Ceremony Part 2
Glamnuptials: Bride Posing
Glamnuptials: Groom Posing
Glamnuptials: Strike the pose Part 1
Glamnuptials: Strike the pose Part 2
Glamnuptials: The Newlyweds
Glamnuptials: We are Family
Glamnuptials: The first dance
Glamnuptials: Toast time a lot of tears
Glamnuptials: Le Gâteau
Glamnuptials: The Guestbook
Glamnuptials: Decor Elements
Glamnuptials: Giving our gifts
Glamnuptials: DAS aka Day after Shoot
Glamnuptials: Wedding Movie Trailer
Glamnuptials: Real Wedding Inspiration Board
Glamnuptials: The REAL Budget

6.23.2009

Where's Marty Mcfly... I want to go back in time

I screwed up... seriously and if I could find Marty McFly, I'd hop on the DeLorean DMC-12 and go back in time. Not far away... back to June 20th. The day before my first year anniversary. Sigh

Photo Credit : IPI-Events

I had great plans... really! I wanted to rent our honeymoon suite and re-live the magic of our wedding night... and enjoy the time together. Unfortunately, that plan got bumped with Sunday breakfast for fathers day. I should of turned the invitation down, but worried my dad would be disappointed... now its too late. Fathers day was blah and I wish I had gone with my plan.

You might find me shallow... but my dads has had a fathers day celebration for the past 34 years and many more will come, but my 1 year anniversary is gone.... and never coming back. I'm seriously bummed and to top things off, I didn't get an anniversary gift. Double Sigh. I didn't need anything big, or over the top... just love, recognition that its an important date. (To me at least) and... a flower wouldn't of hurt, but it wasn't necessary.

I haven't given Mr.Flamingo's anniversary present, because it has not yet arrived... but because I told him that, now he wants to make up for the no-gift. Nice try... but its not gonna make up for how I feel at the moment. I want to go back to my anniversary date SO BAD and do it just how I had mapped it out in my head... :(

Have you been bummed about something and wish you could turn back time?
If so, please share...

6.15.2009

Glamnuptials: Toast time with alot of tears

After we finished our first dance and made our way to our seats and heard a little "ching ching." I looked around and saw my father standing up, sweating bullets and trying to keep his cool. I knew from that nervous smile of his, it was time... he was ready to say his speech.

"I want my speech to be perfect" he had told me early that week. "Perfect because you deserve no less" I started tearing up, who wouldn't after those heartfelt words.

I looked at my daddy and instantly all the memories of my childhood, of him and me, flashed before my eyes... and I smiled. I took a deep breath, just as he did and tried to keep the lump in my throat under control.

And he started (originally written in French; translated by me):

"Dear parents, family and friends,
I would like to thank each and everyone of you for being part of this special day, Kelly and Marc-Andres' wedding day.

Dear Kelly,
I look at you today and with my father heart, I will summarize the movie of your life:

From the day you were born I have been touched...
Touched by the memory of the first time I held you in my arms.
Touched by looking at your grow along the years and I am so proud of the woman you've become.
Touched when you took my arm this afternoon and we walked down the aisle together.

And today my dear Kelly, the next scene of your movie arrive, the one about your union, your couple life. You stand beside an exceptional man that I cherish, appreciate and love very much. I wish you both lots of love, happiness and in hopes that I will be moved by becoming a grand-father one day."

Tears steaming down my face, he looked up at me and invited me to join him and dance by his side for our father / daughter dance to the song: In my Daughter's Eyes by Martina McBride. He had chosen this song carefully because he wanted words which represented "US"

In my daughter's eyes I am a hero
I am strong and wise and I know no fear
But the truth is plain to see
She was sent to rescue me
I see who I wanna be
In my daughter's eyes
- Lyrics of In my Daughter's Eyes by Martina McBride

I had not shed a single tear until this moment. I had found a way to keep my cool all through the ceremony and even the first dance... but this was too much. So my father and I cried together while we danced our dance. A very important part of my wedding day...

We looked around and our guests circled us while shedding a tear or two. A mid-way through the song, we invited all fathers to finish the dance with their daughters... simply priceless. Just writing about it makes me emotional.

What was the most emotional part of your wedding day?

Up next: Boogie on down...

Images taken by Ipi-events and guests
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Previously:
Glamnuptials: Beauty Time
Glamnuptials: Prep Time
Glamnuptials: Our details

Glamnuptials: Ceremony Part 1
Glamnuptials: Ceremony Part 2
Glamnuptials: Bride Posing
Glamnuptials: Groom Posing
Glamnuptials: Strike the pose Part 1
Glamnuptials: Strike the pose Part 2
Glamnuptials: The Newlyweds
Glamnuptials: We are Family
Glamnuptials: The first dance
Glamnuptials: Le Gâteau
Glamnuptials: The Guestbook
Glamnuptials: Decor Elements
Glamnuptials: Giving our gifts
Glamnuptials: DAS aka Day after Shoot
Glamnuptials: Wedding Movie Trailer
Glamnuptials: Real Wedding Inspiration Board

6.10.2009

Glamnuptials : The REAL Budget

When I started planning my wedding, there is one thing that I kept looking for and had a hard time finding, the budget breakdown of a real wedding. Oh course the budget depends on a lot of factors. Location, Date, and Amount of Guests but still I wanted to have some sort of idea. Who wouldn't?

What was particularly difficult with our situation was the Mr.Flamingo was in school the whole time we were engaged and even after the wedding. So planning a wedding on one salary wasn't the easiest thing to do... but do-able nonetheless. We simply needed to have an extra long engagement in return (2 and a half years) but it was worth it.

Here is the breakdown to our glamnuptials:

Date: June 21st 2008
City: In the Suburbs (approx 30 minutes from Montreal)
Budget: $22,000
# of Guests: 145
(including children, vendors & excluding guests (30-40) who came in the evening )

Wedding Day Costs

Ceremony Site: $475
This included the officiant and helpers for no extra cost. We basically had a mini church coordinator so everything ran quite smoothly.

Reception Site: N/A
There were no fee associated with the Hotel we used for our wedding reception. Basically the cost was broken down with the food and drinks. We had a beautiful hall with the capacity of 300 guests. (Therefore enough room to move and dance) We had a beautiful terrace where guests could enjoy with a waterfall and fireplace at night.

Food & Drink: $13 010

The reception started off with a cocktail and some hors d'oeuvre. Then was followed by a 5 course meal with wine included during the meal and open bar after 10:30 for a time slot of 4 hours and a sweet table at the stroke of midnight. This included 4 vendor meals ($35.00 / per vendor ) Here is the breakdown of the food and drinks:
  • Hors d'oeuvre: $850 ($21.25 per dozen)
  • 5 course Meal: $77.00 / per adult - $17.00 / per child
  • Open Bar: $18.50 per adult (18 years and older)
  • Sweet table: $500.00 (including pizzas, sandwiches, fruits, cake)
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    total : $13007.50 (excluding service charges/gratuities
Service Charge/Gratuities: $1950.00
A 15% gratuity and all service charges for 1 event manager, 6 servers, 1 kitchen staff, and 3 bartenders was added to the total amount.

Cake: 375$
A 3-tier, chocolate, marble and vanilla cake. A small cake (75 large portions) to serve at the sweet table since we already had a dessert included in the main meal.

Bridal Gown & Alterations: $0 (dress) $125 (alterations)
My wedding dress was a gift from my mother. But it cost
$690 this included dress, veil, shale, sash, and extra straps. Even thought I barely had any alterations to get done, I needed to make my dress shorter. The alterations cost 125$

Bridal Accessories: $320
I had lots of accessories some purchased some DIY projects. Here's the breakdown:

  • Jewelry Set: $130
  • Shoes: $95
  • Shoe embellishments: $10
  • Hair Comb: $10
  • Handmade Brooch: $15
  • Garter : $10
  • Undergarments: $50

Groom’s Attire: N/A
Where we got the suits for the guys a little guy, there was a great promotion which allowed the groom to rent his attire for free!

Manicure/Pedicure : $0
Offered as a gift by my sister (aka bridesmaid)

Hair/Makeup: 0$
My hair was done by my awesome hairdresser. My step-mother was the sweetest and paid for all the girls and myself. As for my makeup, it was done by my awesome friend, also a gift.

Stationery/Postage: $435

  • Invitations & envelopes: $75.00
  • RSVP Postcards: $25.00
  • Accomodation Cards: $25.00
  • Thank-Yous & envelopes: $40.00
  • Postage: $120.00
  • Printing and/or Ink: $150.00

Other stationery items: $60

  • Place Cards: $40.00
  • Guest book: $0 Gift from a friend
  • Programs : $10.00
  • Menus: $10.00
  • Printing and/or Ink: $25.00

Flowers: $480
All wedding flowers included:

  • Bride Bouquet : $100
  • 3 Bridesmaid + 1 MOH bouquet + Toss Bouquet : $240
  • 6 bouts: $60
  • 5 corsages : $50
  • DIY Bouquet Bling: $30

Centerpieces/Decor: $1000
Various decor elements included:

  • Table runners: $125
  • Vases + Mirroirs: $350
  • Garlands and chandelier pieces: $40
  • Candles: $85
  • Vintage Park Lighting: $400

Photography: 1000$
Being a graphic designer and familiar with Photoshop, I wanted my pictures to be RAW (un-edited) on a DVD. That way, it was good for both parties, less work for them, and cheaper price for me. Plus I got to do all the editing I wanted and feel free to use any picture I wanted

Videography: 3500$
Having our videographer come from NYC to our wedding obviously raised the cost and we definitely busted our budget on this one. That's why we opted for less coverage (6 hours only) But to be honest, I'm extremely happy we decided to splurge on the Super 8 ... without it, my wedding wouldn't of been the same.

Ceremony/Reception Music: 700$
Our DJ was awesome. Not only was the find a great deal, but the guests did not stop dancing for one bit. The price included 10 hours and all the props; glow sticks, hats, hawaiian necklaces..etc

Coordinator: N/A

Favors: 300$
Bottles of water combined with a donation to the Quebec Breast Cancer Foundation in memory of my grandmother and in honor mommy flamingo, survivor.

Wedding Party Gifts: $300
The bridesmaids (x3) got a 50$ gift which included a Flash Drive, a journal, and an embroidered silk jewelry roll. I gave the same to my MOH but added a 50$ gift certificate at a local spa. The best man got superman cuff links and a 50$ gift certificate.

Transportation: $425
Rental of our beautiful Vintage 1957 Bentley. This amount was for 6 hours and included the champagne, red carpet and all. Tip was also included.

Night Accommodations: $0
Honeymoon suite was offered as a gift by the hotel for having our wedding reception take place there. It was a very very nice honeymoon suite.

Miscellaneous: $385
Flower girl attire: $60
Ring Bearer attire: $125
Parent Gifts: $200

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Wedding Day Total: $ 24 840
Total Cost per person: $ 171.31
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All inclusive costs:

Wedding rings: $ 1800 (both)
Having my ring made by a jeweler boosted the price of my ring over than what I originally wanted to pay for it. Regardless, its a good investement, anyway my fingers would say so. ;)

Rehearsal Dinner/Day After Brunch: N/A

Mini-moon: 1250$
Because of budget restraints we decided on doing a minimoon to New York City. A 4 day 3 night trip filled with shopping, museums, dining out and of course a broadway show.

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All inclusive total: $3050
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For a Grand total of .... drum roll please: $27 890

I was afraid adding up all the totals, but honestly... its not as bad as I thought. A little over 5500$ of my initial budget. I must say though that being prepared and having every little details in a budget excel sheet made it so much easier to see how much I spent when planning my wedding. For those interested, you can download my budget form here.

Hope this has helped in some way...


Images taken by Ipi-events, Anne-Emilie Photo and guests
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Previously:
Glamnuptials: Beauty Time
Glamnuptials: Prep Time
Glamnuptials: Ceremony Part 1
Glamnuptials: Ceremony Part 2
Glamnuptials: Bride Posing
Glamnuptials: Groom Posing
Glamnuptials: Strike the pose Part 1
Glamnuptials: Strike the pose Part 2
Glamnuptials: The Newlyweds
Glamnuptials: We are Family
Glamnuptials: First Dance

Glamnuptials: Le Gâteau
Glamnuptials: The Guestbook
Glamnuptials: Decor Elements
Glamnuptials: Giving our gifts
Glamnuptials: DAS aka Day after Shoot
Glamnuptials: Wedding Movie Trailer
Glamnuptials: Real Wedding Inspiration Board